Denial is Dangerous

Whether in the workplace, community, or family system, denial is dangerous. As an executive coach, psychotherapist, and corporate consultant, I have witnessed dire consequences when denial is at play, even death. In Mindfulness Training, the opposite of denial is acceptance, and acceptance is defined as “having the willingness and courage to see clearly.” Clarity takes courage because it often requires having a voice, taking an action, or making a change. This is uncomfortable for many. It’s inconvenient. And the people around you may not like it or understand it. When you galvanize the courage and willingness to see things clearly – yourself, others, situations – you step into your personal power. You build your internal strength and resilience. You are in alignment with your highest and best self. Invest in becoming your best self!

Practice the Pause

Sometimes, the first impulse is erroneous. Ever sent a text, an email or made a phone call impulsively only to realize that you made a serious mistake? Mindfulness is not about inaction.  But Mindfulness teaches you to slow down to make skillful responses. Consciously pausing before acting can make a tremendous difference in the results you reap. Just taking a few brief breaths may be enough. Where can you build in brief pauses throughout your day today?

Releasing the Past

Regret can sideline forward progress. Replaying the what if’s, the woulda/coulda’s, and the if only’s is simply a waste of time and energy. Mindfulness calls you to forgive past unskillful, unproductive behavior. Being mindful means letting go of the past and making fresh, skillful choices in the present. Today is a new day, now is a new moment!

Mindfulness, Self-Awareness and Blind Spots

The Johari Window, conceptualized in 1955, is a uselful tool when one is working on growing in their self-awareness. This is a foundational element in peak performance. The key is to reduce blind spots about oneself. This requires reflection, contemplation, and often times, a good executive or life coach!

The Johari Window also helps us to have better relationships, the key in all functions of business, whether you are in sales, hospitality, or healthcare. Take a look at the sections. There are things known to both us and others. There are things that others don’t know about us. There are things about us that neither others nor we know about ourselves. But the one area of perhaps greatest concern is what others know about us, but we don’t know about ourselves! This area represents our blind spots. In Mindfulness, we teach beginner’s mind- being open and curious about ourselves and others. This flexibility in our perceptions allow positive growth and the reduction of suffering. Whether in personal relationships or organizational dynamics, Mindfulness can be an ally for greater peak performance and success, or what we like to call Mindful Performance. As executive coaches and life coaches, we have seen this simple tool help people tremendously in the personal growth and professional development.